ENFJ is one of the sixteen personality types as classified by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator or MBTI. ENFJ is an acronym for extraversion, intuition, feeling and judging.
E is for Extraversion
People with ENFJ personality are outgoing. They rejoice their associations or camaraderie with others and would often be more interested in interactions with others than keeping to oneself. They like to be among people and they love to socialize.
N is for Intuition
A person with ENFJ personality will be intuitive, will look at the macro picture and would be drawn more by the abstract than the tangible.
F is for Feeling
The ‘F’ is feeling as it dominates reasoning and decision making. People with such a personality are more willing to consider personal values and interpersonal relations than objectivity while making any kind of decision or choice. Logic takes a backseat.
J is for Judgment
This propels a person to be proactive and keen to plan their actions and routines. Such an attribute makes a person like predictability and the sense of being in control of situations.
Some of the most popular people with ENFJ personality type are Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Abraham Lincoln, Sean Connery, Ronald Reagan, William Cullen Bryant, Ben Affleck, Tommy Lee Jones, Francois Mitterrand, Michael Jordan, John Cusack and Matthew McConaughey among many others. ENFJ is a very common personality trait. They are fondly known as the protagonists.
An ENFJ personality is extremely tolerant. That is actually what allows them to be with others. A person cannot socialize easily if one isn’t tolerant of others’ faults and shortcomings. No one is perfect. If anyone is hoping for the ideal or craves for perfection then one cannot socialize freely or be around people all the time. An ENFJ personality will listen to others, be forgiving of minor mistakes and will be flexible to accept dissent or contradicting views.
A fine trait of an ENFJ person is the natural willingness to accept that one doesn’t have all the answers. This is what makes them open, flexible and a darling of others. They do not rule out or ignore what other people say. The entire participation is quite constructive and that also makes such people reliable. People know that such a person will listen to them and consider what they have to say. People with ENFJ personality often become the center of attraction or the go-to person in a group.
ENFJ personality oozes charm and can be very motivating. Their communication is crisp. They have the ability to captivate anyone or even a large audience. They can interact with passion and emotion, restraint and reason, all at the same time or when specific situations demand so.
ENFJ personalities are altruistic by nature. They like bringing people together. They want to contribute to immediate and larger good. Every effort they make is with the firm belief that something good or better can be attained through that little or major endeavor.
An ENFJ personality is not authoritative but owing to their acceptance and popularity among others they often rise to leadership positions.
Unfortunately, some of the more desirable traits in an ENFJ personality end up working against them. For instance, such a person is extremely idealistic. You can think of Lincoln or Reagan and they were idealists. Having ideals is good but being overly idealistic is not. Their ideals often make them sound naïve and their actions can also be regarded as naiveté.
An ENFJ personality is also extremely sensitive and selfless. Such people consider problems of others to be entirely theirs and that can cause irreparable harm to their own lives and prospects. Being too sensitive also make them prone to disappointment and depression at the slightest criticism. Such a personality will always worry if they are doing things the right way and if there is something more or better that they should be doing.
Owing to this consistent urge of doing better or questioning if they are doing enough, ENFJ personalities suffer from poor self esteem. Although they may be very confident of who and what they are, the constant questioning will make them vulnerable to fluctuating self esteem. This also makes way for some insecurity which is quite detrimental to an ENFJ personality.
An ENFJ person is popular and is often the heartthrob or the star attraction in a place and that makes them incapable of taking tough decisions. They struggle to make hard choices, especially those that would affect the lives of others. Not only do they get stuck but they also tend to personalize the consequences of the decisions they would take.