One is a patient visionary that has a clear perspective of what the future should be like. The other takes things very seriously and wants to make sure they are always doing the right thing. INTJs tend to be the more dominant personality type in compatibility with an INFJ, but both play off of the strengths of each other in order to find some harmony. INFJs tend to be quiet and gentle, preferring to stay behind the scenes. INTJs also have this desire, but they don’t like working for “incompetent” individuals. They’ll take over and lead at a moment’s notice.
Emotions Can Rip the Compatibility Apart
INFJs use emotion has an escape mechanism for what happens to them over the course of any given time. They tend to give much more than they receive, which means they run out of energy often by the end of the day. Emotions provide them with a filter that allows them to keep a piece of their individuality as they take joy from improving the lives of others.
INTJs, on the other hand, really don’t care about emotions at all. They don’t understand how emotions can strongly impact others and don’t give a second thought to emotional responses that their actions may bring. This makes the INTJ seem cold and insensitive, which sets them at odds against the emotional warmth that the INFJ attempts to provide through actions and giving.
Both Personalities Need Alone Time
Part of the reason why INFJs and INTJs need their own space is because of their introverted nature. There’s also the fact that the INFJ can have bouts of almost extroverted outspokenness. INFJs can be very forthright and aggressive when it comes to their social interactions, being very open and engaging. This is countered by periods of time when the INFJ needs to be on their own, completely shut off from the rest of the world, without even close friends hanging around. This aloneness isn’t a bad thing. It’s a way for the INFJ to recharge.
INTJs take a different, more logical approaching to how they interact with others. They are very private people by nature, quiet unless they must speak, and this makes them very easy to misunderstand. INTJs don’t understand when others act in what they would define as an illogical way, so if the INFJ is try to separate themselves for alone time and those feelings don’t make sense to the INTJ, there will be a rift in the compatibility.
Creativity Drives This Compatibility
INFJs take their values very seriously. They also want all of their relationships, no matter what the personality type might be, to take those values just as seriously. INFJs help others because they want to create a positive long-term vision that brings people together in the best way possible so the most good can be achieved.
This is the place of greatest compatibility that the INFJ has with the INTJ. INTJs also look toward the future and can piece together the puzzle of a long-term vision to make it have the greatest possible chances of success. The one difference is that INTJs tend to look at abstract ideas and concepts, relying on their logic and creativity to power them toward a result. INFJs rely on their emotional understanding instead.
Conflict Doesn’t Exist In This Compatibility
INTJs don’t often see conflict at all. They see passion and logic when someone attempts to convince them that their position is incorrect. Even if the problem is intricately complex, the INTJ will dive-in head first to learn something new – no matter what it may be. They love getting in over their heads and then trying to figure out a way to get out.
INFJs have this same desire, but it takes a different focus. Instead of defending themselves, INFJs tend to find themselves defending others. This causes them to have a surprisingly forthright method of defense that causes them to have a certain ferocity that other personality types don’t have. Both types are basically private and will work together to get any job done, but both types are comfortable in working on their own and then combining results as well.
INFJ and INTJ compatibility is based on bringing feelings together with logic in a beneficial way. Each has a strength that improves the other. If both can glean strengths out of these differences, then this is one of the strongest compatibility relationships that exists today.