One person is very deep and private, extremely independent, and willing to go through life alone if necessary. The other loves to imagine what will be, what could have been, and stays true to their very core in all things. INTP and INFP compatibility is unique because it is based on two unusual components of each personality type.
For the INFP, compatibility with an INTP is based on morality compatibility. If the INTP doesn’t share the same belief systems as the INFP, then compatibility isn’t going to exist at all.
For the INTP, compatibility is all about personal interest. If the relationship feels boring or they feel like they are being tied down when they want to go explore, then there will be no hesitation to pull the plug on this compatibility.
Logical Correctness Is a Point of Emphasis
INTPs are almost obsessed with logic. Everything to them must have a specific role, fulfill a specific task, or accomplish something that is needed. To them, life is really about acquiring resources that help them to succeed. This means the INFP is going to be considered as a resource first and that can be very off-putting to someone who is very focused on emotions.
INFPs are very private and they protect their emotional well-being by almost “pretending” to feel certain things when they really are not. INTPs struggle to get a read on people and can be fooled by the INFP’s representation of feelings. The end result comes back to value: if there is no value in this type of encounter, the INTP is just going to leave.
Communication Difficulties Are Normal
Some relationships are based on enhanced communication. Others are based on specific communication techniques. INTP and INFP compatibility is based on a lack of communication. INTPs prefer to speak only when something needs to be said. Meaningless words about the weather or other forms of small talk are considered to be pointless. INFPs tend to stay quiet and shy, also preferring to communicate when needed, which creates an environment of quiet confidence.
INTP and INFP compatibility is based on objective motivations. INFPs are attracted to the directness of the INTP. INTPs are attracted to the reserved nature of the INFP. Together this compatibility can engineer a relationship that benefits both personality types.